Jasmine Pay: Do it for yourself – Rock The Naked Truth

Jasmine Pay: Do it for yourself

Like most girls out there, I was never the “skinny, pretty girl” to begin with. Since young, I was always overweight and was in the TAF Club from primary school to secondary school. It doesn’t help that I love to eat. Of course, my classmates always gave me weird nicknames but I got over it.

It was only after I went to ITE after my GCE “O” levels that I started to get very concerned about how people looked at me, so I asked my mum to bring me to a weight management company to aid me in losing weight. During the period of treatment, I did lose about 20kg and I was at my lowest weight in life. That was when I met this guy who later went on to negatively impact my life greatly.

During the course of the 6-year relationship with this guy, I not only gained back the 20kg, I put on more! In the process, I also lost my identity, my money, my life, my trust, my friends and my family. However, I continued to stick with this guy, because I felt fat and ugly, I had very low self-esteem and no confidence in myself. I was afraid that I will be all alone if I leave him and that I will never meet another guy again.

Just two years ago, he started to cheat on me and waving his punches at me. At the same time I witnessed domestic violence with my own eyes which got me thinking, “Would I want to be with a guy like him for the rest of my life? What if he attacks me?”

That was when I realised I needed to get out of this relationship. It was a huge struggle when I was making the decision but I know I have to start loving myself and start living for myself. Hence, I took the leap and left him for good. I kept reminding myself that without him, my life would be better.

To me, self-love is to move on from whatever that is making us miserable. From the time I left him until now, it has been about 2 years plus and I have achieved so much more compared to the 6 years I was with him. It was not easy but I got out of my comfort zone, pushed myself hard to achieve where I am today. I am happier, healthier and of course, surrounded with all the people whom I love everyday.

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I had a very unhealthy relationship with my body w

I had a very unhealthy relationship with my body when I was in my early 20s and the relationship carried till Circuit Breaker. This period of isolation forced me to reflect on my own inner child wounds.

I was born with big hips structure and damn jialat metabolism. At 24, I tried to lose weight by jogging every morning and only having yogurt for the whole day. I did lose some weight but I also lost a lot of my hair. That lifestyle lasted for 2 months and I was not in a good mental space. Then I went back to my usual diet and gained all the weight back.

In 2021, I got molested in the bus by this Gray Hoodie Ah Pek. He sat beside me, pretended to fall asleep and circled his thumb on my thigh. He then alighted the bus and looked back at me with a smirk. I swear I was beyond disgusted.

Due to genetics, I have a heavier bottom and the yoga pants and bicycle shorts that I buy online are not squat-proof (very transparent at the butt area) so most of the time when I head out for training I would need to double wear my yoga/bicycle pants with shorts. But that day, I was in a cover-up dress that showed nothing and was feeling disgusted and fat. I reported him to the police anyway.

Later, I released myself from a very toxic situation when I was constantly seeking for acceptance and at the same time, I received news that Gray Hoodie Ah Pek was sentenced to 2 counts with 4 months imprisonment.

At that point of time, it was very dark and I questioned myself frequently, “Is it because I am not good enough?”, “Confused, I was fat but why did that ah pek still touch me?”, “Guilty, because I was one of the reasons that sent him to imprisonment and he might have a family to feed.”, “Why me?”.

To cope, I went back to doing yoga and also started Muay Thai. I felt more balance, love and acceptance towards myself; learned self-defence, resilience, discipline and how to stay grounded.

Definitely, there will still be days when I question myself with my own self-acceptance, but I made a promise to myself to continue to learn and grow mentally and never stop.

Thank you for reading my story. Namaste.

- Val (@soundslikehokkienmee)

Came across this photo taken in 2010 and I had pos

Came across this photo taken in 2010 and I had posted it on Facebook with a caption “omg I look so fat here”.

This was when I was struggling with my eating disorders. I was starving myself, taking slimming pills, counting calories and I remember feeling so miserable all the time.

How was this fat?! I clearly was struggling with my body, with my self-worth, with my confidence. And this lack of self-confidence showed in many different ways.

For example, I was constantly in relationships or dating because I needed attention for validation. I would stay in toxic relationships even though I know it’s bad, and I would enable it further, because at the back of my mind I just want to feel loved.

It took me over a decade to reach where I am now and it hasn’t been easy at all. There are days when some of these past demons rear their ugly heads but I am able to better deal with them now.

Self-love is a journey, so be patient and keep working at it!

You are stronger than you think.

You are stronger than you think.

“Growing up as a chubby kid opened the floodgate

“Growing up as a chubby kid opened the floodgates for a lot of tease and I never felt very confident about my body image growing up. Additionally, I am bigger in build and height than most of my female peers, so it was even more stark.

I really struggled when I was 14 years old and dropped from 70kg+ to 50kg. I weighed myself every day and after every meal, because I was obsessed with being 50kg at 1.73m tall, which was actually quite unhealthy and I saw weight gain as an enemy. When I was at my worst, I would cry when I saw the number on the weighing scale rise.

I'm glad my relationship with my weight is no longer a thing, and I rarely take my weight unless it's for a health checkup, because weight is just a number and being physically active and eating a balanced diet is more important than the number on the weighing scale.

I believe my time serving in the military changed the way I view life. I faced many challenges as the only female in my battalion of 600 men and I had to constantly prove myself. It taught me the value of a positive attitude and a determined mind, which serves me till today.

I'm happy with my physical appearance now. I adore my curves and my body, and I believe that my physical appearance reflects my inner confidence and strength, as well as a sum of some of my life experiences aesthetically.

My body is far from "perfect" – I have a jiggly tummy, love handles when I sit, and a plethora of stretch marks – but those are just signs that I have been living my life, having experiences, and changing (aesthetically or otherwise).

My body has been through a lot – full marathons, combat field training, a bad motorcycle fall that resulted in a second-degree burn on my right calf, and surfing. I am grateful to have a healthy and whole body to participate in these activities.” - @jiahuiongggg on her relationship with her body

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Sometimes we just need someone to listen. And nothing is ever too stupid or embarrassing to share.

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Our founder @cheryltaysg was part of a panel for @

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The topic revolved around creating safe spaces for women in male-dominated sports (which is most sports if you think about it) and how to balance the emotional and mental well being of women in these sports.

Thank you @so_fieeee for having us!

Our takeaway from this session is to create your tribe (it can be a group or a bunch of individuals) who will empower you and make you comfortable, yet know when to push you a little out of your comfort zone to grow.