Adeline Cheah: I want you to know that you are loveable

When I was young, I never knew what self-love meant. I never loved myself. Boys sneered and told me in my face that they would only give me a score of "C" based on my looks and figure. Yet, I was so eager to get their attention and be accepted - that I gambled my health away.

My battle with myself began.

My period stopped for months, my pelvic bones started to show, my pants started to drop and my hair was falling out in clumps. I dreaded the sight of myself and my reflection everyday. And one day, I suddenly snapped.

I started to sway between anorexia and bulimia. By then, I had already grown to hate myself and feel guilty whenever I felt good about myself. I would consume impossibly large volumes of food and force myself to throw up thereafter. I was obsessed with calorie-counting and felt pleasure whenever I see the pounds dropping.

Finally, my mother took me to the doctor. My dentist recognised my eating disorder right away when he saw my corroded teeth. That was when I decided to help myself. I did not want my children to see their mother wasting her life away.

My husband and my children were the ones who gave me the strength to rediscover and the power to love myself. I no longer needed to validate myself through the eyes of others. I began to take up sports and rediscover a part of myself that I never knew.

I am a big fan of running now and have earned myself 12 medals in two years. I put them up in my room and these babies showed me how strong I can be. The nasty shallow opinions no longer bore a hole in my heart and make me bleed. I come to you as who I am.

I have friends who fiercely love me for who I am. My inner beauty makes up for what I am lack in my physical appearances. I want you to know that you are loveable. You do not need to depend on others' opinions or judgment. You are who you are and embrace yourself for it. Never accept anything less than full love for yourself. Before you criticise yourself for those freckles on your face or the wavy voluminous hair, stop yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror and into your own eyes. You are beautiful. You are loved. You are worth so much. Always.

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  • Tinee Dino (@tineedino) didn't like looking at numbers, so he used a plain strip of paper to measure his waist. He needed a longer one this week.
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  • We wanted to highlight our ROCKstar of the Month (April), @keanenlee, again. He submitted his story through ROCKshare early last year, but took some time to find the courage to join us. He finally came to @rockrunnerssg towards the end of last year and has been coming back ever since. •
He said, "...my life took a change for the worst when I was 15. My grandmother passed away on the day she was due to be discharged from the hospital. It was devastating news that sank my world.
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To put things into context, my brother and I lived with our grandparents since we were babies, while my other two siblings stayed with my parents in the opposite block. Thus, this piece of news hit me really hard and I was very affected.
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Although I managed to pick myself up from this, nothing was the same anymore. The relationship between my grandfather and parents started to drift apart. Being stuck in the middle, the kids weren’t having it any easier as well."
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Keanen went through even more trials and tribulations in his life but he eventually overcame them. He added, "Without you my ROCKfam, I would never have expected myself to step out of my comfort zone and share my story with everyone. To everyone else who is reading this, I do not know of the battles you are fighting in your life, but I hope that you press on and in the process, remember to love yourself and those around you a little more. Everyone fights, no one quits."
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  • It's not about the number on the scale - it's how you feel. // #repost @saraweeyogic 
10 years apart and 10 kilos heavier. 
I'm not here to say I look better now than I did when I was 21; there's nothing wrong with my body in either photo. I'm just here to say that the weighing scale is just one of many factors that a play a part in your journey to getting fit, so an increased number does not equate to an increased size in your physical body. 
And don't be scared of developing muscles, we at @rockthenakedtruthsg think they're awesome!
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  • Tinee Dino (@tineedino) made sure he had his sweatband off before weighing himself this time. He hoped the result would be drastically different.
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  • #Repost @cheryltaysg •••
Someone said to me the other day, "When I saw you, you don't look like the type who exercises... but actually you're decent on the bike." It was an honest comment not meant to wound, but it also reflects how people still hold the stereotype that athletes should be of a certain body type. •
I wouldn't call myself an athlete; this is a lifestyle to me rather but I DO exercise... quite a bit... I know I don't have toned arms or slim legs, I don't have abs etc; but do we need those before we can exercise? We shouldn't be exercising to get those either! I just like working out!! •
I wasn't offended, but it reminded me of how people are so quick to judge. Life isn't about how we look; it's about how we choose to live it. And I'm damn proud of my body, curves and jiggles and all, for taking me through the pain on this crazy tri journey! #cheryltayworksout #rockthenakedtruth #loveyourselfeveryday #loveyourself #youarebeautiful #iambeautiful #bodyconfidence #beingyou #selfconfidence #motivation #inspiration #rockfam