#ROCKloveSG winners – Rock The Naked Truth

#ROCKloveSG winners

A huge THANK YOU to each and everyone of you who has taken part in #ROCKloveSG, our self-love contest. You can view some of the entries here.

Congratulations to the winners:

(in no particular order)

Siti Syafawati (@itsredsummer)

Self love to me is being silly and happy without thinking too much of what others might think. Self love to me is doing the things that makes me feel good and not because I am force to. Self love to me is forgiving myself for making mistakes because, for real, no one really has their shit together. Self love to me is loving the way I look even if others don’t agree. My mind and body belongs to me if I don’t love myself than who will?

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Siti wins the styling session with Drea Chong at adidas Originals.

Germaine Lim (@gerpig)

Words cut like a blade. When the past starts coming back to haunt then one will realise how secure or insecure one is. For me, it was insecurity.

Today my long walk was for me to calm my thoughts and breathe in some air of positivity. I finally found some inspiration to pen my thoughts down so here is my submission for #rocklovesg @rockthenakedtruthsg

What is self love to me?

It is a conscious decision every moment every day to treat yourself with dignity, respect amd tender loving care. Some days are easier than others but this is more so impt on days when u feel like u dont deserve to do sth u enjoy or eat the food u like just because.

Sometimes all it takes is that 1 negative comment to break us and feel like we dont deseve to be treated well. When monsters start screaming in your head its not easy to get rid or silence them but “No one can make make u feel inferior without your consent” – Eleanor Roosevelt

More often than not, we are our harshest critics. Even if there are ppl that see the beauty in us and really loves us it is useless if we dont see the beauty in ourself. Only when we start to treat ourself with the love, gentleness and respect we deserve will we then slowly come to discover the beauty within us and to love ourselves and accept us for who we are.

Be more patient, forgiving and gentle with yourself. Less hate more love

Germaine wins the hair makeover with Angeline Tan at FDP Prestige Hair Care.

Serene Gabrielle (@warriorprincessgabby)

This email has been sitting in draft for awhile upon seeing the the campaign on instagram. I wasn’t sure whether I am prepared to share my journey but if it can help inspire/ motivate another to hang on and be strong, why not especially when I have been so inspired by Cheryl.

It all started with one sentence ‘Your ass is too big to haul yourself up the canoe’. I was just 17 and those words came from a guy that I kinda had a crush on. I have always been heavy-bottomed and I never felt conscious about it till that faithful day which turned my life upside down for 7 years. I battled with eating disorder from one spectrum of anorexia to the other end of binge eating. I remember the times that I just because I ate a piece of apple. It came to a point that I hated myself so much that I didn’t want to look into the mirror and attempted to end my life as it was just too tiring.

Thankfully I found God and it helped me to pick myself up and it was the first step to know what it means to love myself as God loves me for who I am. However, despite being discharged from my eating disorder and feeling better about myself. I was still conscious of how I look and I was constantly insecure and it didn’t help that I was in love with who man who was emotionally unavailable. Managed to get out of the toxic relationship and I met someone whom I was with for 9 year. I thought I found finally happy and I thought that I finally found someone who loves me for who I am.

But everything crashed down on me… a year ago found that he has been having an affair. And his words stabbed me really hard ‘I am no longer attracted to you.’ I think that’s the harshest words that a wife can get from her husband. I started to doubt myself, started to hate myself for who I am, I started to question my self -worth. The darkest period was when he decided to proceed with the divorce and leave me.

Its been 4 months since the divorce finalised. Am still healing but through this process I have learnt that life is so unpredictable, and there are people who loves you to bits. Taking my time to find back myself especially when I have spent 9 years devoting my life to another person. Starting to do the things that I love such as working out, running, cycling and hanging out with family and friends. Alot of times when we get through our lives, we lose focus on ourselves as we are so caught up meeting goals and expectations set for us that we forget ask our ‘How am I today?’ To me, self-love is when you can find peace with yourself, to be able to embrace past wrongs and celebrate your victories. Am counting my blessings everyday, it helps to make me go forward each day.

Thanks Rock The Naked Truth for this campaign!

Serene wins the photoshoot with Cheryl Tay and a Fujifilm Instax Mini 8 Camera.

Michelle Lim (@fitlims)

For as long as I can remember, I struggled with my self-esteem. Because of my height and my build, I was always referred to as the “big one” and it made me very self-conscious.

I thought that I didn’t deserve happiness because I didn’t fit the image of what a successful person should be. I thought that once I looked a certain way or attained certain goals, I’d finally be happy.

After an particularly trying 2015, I learnt that my happiness shouldn’t be contingent upon anything. So many things that happen are beyond my control and I shouldn’t let my happiness be controlled by things that I’m powerless to change.

I learnt that the key to happiness is choosing to love yourself in spite of everything that might be going “wrong”; and that self-love is about living life on your own terms and not letting societal expectations weigh down on you.

Today, although my body remains far from “ideal”, I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. I started gymming not to achieve society’s ideal look but to achieve my personal fitness goals (like finally being able to run 10km without dying). And I’ve learnt to always enjoy the journey and always be happy.

Michelle wins the private yoga session with Angeline Yeo at Yoga+.

Rachel Lee (@rachxllee)

“If you were to ask me do I miss the skinny me, part of me I do miss it but that skinny me couldn’t do anything. At the point I felt the weakest I’ve ever been. Now I could do so much that I couldn’t even do in the past.” Read her full story here.

Rachel wins the workout with national high jumper Michelle Sng and an outfit from adidas.

I wish we could have given everyone the prizes, but enjoy your complimentary Dosirak meal (you should have received the e-voucher) and continue on your self-love journey… because you are important.

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I had a very unhealthy relationship with my body w

I had a very unhealthy relationship with my body when I was in my early 20s and the relationship carried till Circuit Breaker. This period of isolation forced me to reflect on my own inner child wounds.

I was born with big hips structure and damn jialat metabolism. At 24, I tried to lose weight by jogging every morning and only having yogurt for the whole day. I did lose some weight but I also lost a lot of my hair. That lifestyle lasted for 2 months and I was not in a good mental space. Then I went back to my usual diet and gained all the weight back.

In 2021, I got molested in the bus by this Gray Hoodie Ah Pek. He sat beside me, pretended to fall asleep and circled his thumb on my thigh. He then alighted the bus and looked back at me with a smirk. I swear I was beyond disgusted.

Due to genetics, I have a heavier bottom and the yoga pants and bicycle shorts that I buy online are not squat-proof (very transparent at the butt area) so most of the time when I head out for training I would need to double wear my yoga/bicycle pants with shorts. But that day, I was in a cover-up dress that showed nothing and was feeling disgusted and fat. I reported him to the police anyway.

Later, I released myself from a very toxic situation when I was constantly seeking for acceptance and at the same time, I received news that Gray Hoodie Ah Pek was sentenced to 2 counts with 4 months imprisonment.

At that point of time, it was very dark and I questioned myself frequently, “Is it because I am not good enough?”, “Confused, I was fat but why did that ah pek still touch me?”, “Guilty, because I was one of the reasons that sent him to imprisonment and he might have a family to feed.”, “Why me?”.

To cope, I went back to doing yoga and also started Muay Thai. I felt more balance, love and acceptance towards myself; learned self-defence, resilience, discipline and how to stay grounded.

Definitely, there will still be days when I question myself with my own self-acceptance, but I made a promise to myself to continue to learn and grow mentally and never stop.

Thank you for reading my story. Namaste.

- Val (@soundslikehokkienmee)

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Came across this photo taken in 2010 and I had posted it on Facebook with a caption “omg I look so fat here”.

This was when I was struggling with my eating disorders. I was starving myself, taking slimming pills, counting calories and I remember feeling so miserable all the time.

How was this fat?! I clearly was struggling with my body, with my self-worth, with my confidence. And this lack of self-confidence showed in many different ways.

For example, I was constantly in relationships or dating because I needed attention for validation. I would stay in toxic relationships even though I know it’s bad, and I would enable it further, because at the back of my mind I just want to feel loved.

It took me over a decade to reach where I am now and it hasn’t been easy at all. There are days when some of these past demons rear their ugly heads but I am able to better deal with them now.

Self-love is a journey, so be patient and keep working at it!

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